Forgiving

I found this:

"Remember, forgiving someone doesn't mean that
you condoned what they did.

It just means that you refuse to let it have any
power over you or what you do."

Healthy Selfishness

The other day I came across an article with this unfamiliar header "Healthy Selfishness"

It's basically telling you to be honest to your own feeling and needs... and put your own needs first. Sounds like being a bad person...why is it good?

In reality, many people do put others' need first as they feel obligated to please other people... or feel guilty to ask for what they want. But

"...failing to put our own needs first, we hope or assume others will give to us as we give to them. But they don't. And an unhealthy dynamic begins...

...Healthy selfishness opens the door to a life of freedom -- freedom from being ruled by the opinions and demands of others as well as freedom from the voices in your own mind..."
<taken from http://lifestyle.msn.com/MindBodyandSoul/PersonalGrowth/Articlelhj.aspx?cp-documentid=496530>


I couldn't agree more that I used to deny my own needs in order to please someone...
I would stretch way out of my comfort zone to do thing someone dare to ask. Back then, my motto was "if you dare to ask, I would dare to give" .......I'd been feeling just fine until the day that person "changed his mind"... I began to realize how I'd betrayed myself big time.

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